On April 23rd, 2016 at TEDxNIU, Karli shared with the world, "I Pooped My Pants." Karli shares a story of her senior year in high school when she woke up one day with a bad stomachache, but she went to school. Unfortunately, she pooped her pants in the hallway walking to the bathroom! She was horrified and humiliated. Karli never told anyone.
It was out of her control. It wasn't her fault. It's something that happens to a lot of people, so why are we so embarrassed? Why is it so wrong? Why is it something that no one talks about?
Just Like Being a Victim of Power Based Personal Violence
Power-based personal violence is a form of violence that has a primary motivator: assertion of power, control and/or intimidation in order to harm another through the uses of force, threat, intimidation, or harassment of an individual.
Victims are scared to come forward because we're told it's our fault we didn't prevent it. Comments like, "Why didn't you leave?" or "What were you drinking?" and "Why didn't you fight back?" put blame and shame onto the victim. We didn't prevent it, because we weren't expecting it until it happened.
"Does being a victim define me as a person?"
Something that is out of your control does not define you. You define it. And when you do, there is nothing wrong with speaking out and asking for help.
What makes me me, is me!
What makes Karli, "Karli Johnson" is that she loves to dance. She's the master of Halloween costumes and she once lip-synced "Ice Ice Baby" as a talent for a pageant.
Being a victim shouldn't be shameful. Power Based Violence is something that happens to millions of people and shaming victims only pushes these issues under the rug. Karli aims to educate her audiences on the importance of believing victims and not defining them by a experience that was out of their control.